Getting the perfect family


A tribute to my family..

Family has been defined in various ways. It used to be a component made up of a father, mother, their kids and the extended relations of both parents. My definition adds friends that slowly won us over and became part of that pack. We don’t get to pick our family members (except you are adopted), you get born into them. But you get to pick your friends and that’s what makes it so beautiful.

I have friends that have turned sisters and brothers, they have being there for me through thick & thin and they are full of surprises. I bet they have no idea how their actions affect me but I will always, always go on my knees and bless God for them. For you see, he has a grand plan, you may feel ‘like shit to your family‘ but God provides this angels on the side to help keep you on the right track.

This post is a dedication to family, to its immediate members and to the acquired ones, love is best enjoyed when shared. My family, immediate, extended and acquired make me complete, I wouldn’t give them up for any reason. I am most grateful to God for his plans are beyond the physical.

Appreciate what you have because even in the darkest night, there is something to be grateful, I know this and I am glad that I’m on my way to being ok with his designs for me and my Family.


A Letter to my Fiancé

I have been meaning to write for so long now….. I really have. I am here now and I still feel blank but it is so important that I write a few lines.

This letter is for your my future fiancé.

How are you today, what was your day like. What have you been up to.

As for me, I am not sure I can sum up what I have been up to today in words. It would be easy to say I had a lazy day, but I didn’t. I stayed home all day but I didn’t get any rest. My thoughts are making me go crazy. So tired of trying to figure out how to manage ‘the things’ that matter. My wonderful job, family and love life.

But its gotten to the point where the quote below sums up my current dilemma……

One of the hardest part of life is deciding whether to walk away or try harder

I will go to bed now. Maybe tomorrow will give me the fresh inspiration I need to write words with meanings.

Have a good night

Pax tecum…..

The gift of Music….

For as long as I could remember, I have admired singers, dancers and actors simply because they have the ability to do stuff that seems to be beyond my capacity, especially the singers.

There are various songs for various purposes. Songs that make you feel better when you are sad or makes you sad or makes one happy or puts one in a very good mood.  For those of us that are introverts and prefer our company most times, music is like a special gift as it helps project feelings that would naturally be suppressed.

Moving on, henceforth I have decided to share my song of the moment. For today it is Tiwa Savage’s Olorun mi. The beauty of the song and its message can’t be explained, its a great song to listen and relive memories of lost ones, moments and so-on.

Anyone interested in listening to the song or watching the video can so through the following links;

I hope you enjoy, I really did and its definitely going to be one of my favorite songs for now :).

pax tecum….


Dear Blog,

I went to Church today and for the first time in weeks, I actually came home with something. The thing is I have been feeling so disconnected lately that attending service became a chore. But I prepared for today. I spent a good part of my evening yesterday praying that I make it to church and ignore how boring (sorry about that) service can be and just listen to the priest and I did and I am super proud of myself.

So, what I came away with is more like a prayer. I decided to post it here to signify my commitment to get somewhere with myself. This is not me being self-righteous, it’s just an acknowledgment that everything in life starts with a step. Either a step backwards or forward. Either way i’m hoping this would be a step forward.

So here it goes….

Christ has no body but yours,

No hands, no feet on earth but yours.

Yours are the eyes with which he looks compassion on the world,

Yours are the feet with which he walks to do good,

Yours are the hands with which he blesses all the World.

Yours are the hands, yours are the feet, 

Yours are the eyes, you are his body,

Christ has no body now but yours,

No hands, no feet on earth but yours…Teresa of Avila (1515-1582).

I guess it says it all

….pax tecum

Letting go…

I’ve being in a dilemma for 2 days and counting, unsure of what to do with myself.

You see, I got a call at 4:35 a.m on Sunday morning that one of my best friends, my sister Susan was dead.
Nothing, absolutely nothing prepares you for the loss of someone so close, not even past deaths, I know this because I lost my Dad in 2003 and my younger sister in 1995.

So I thought I was covered, that I could actually let go; but how is that I still find myself wondering if this is all a dream or a sick joke or something else, just not death!!!
….Its too final. You see, I never got the chance to say good-bye to Susan, to tell her how much I loved her…

I keep asking myself how to move on, its so unfair that all the plans we have would end up not coming to pass. Who would fill in the gaps for me, who will comfort your mum…I remember nights when she wouldn’t let us go out because she wanted company, who will do this again…

Maybe I shouldn’t be doing this but celebrating your life at least I can move on, its what everyone says, so it might work.

I remember the first time I saw you, it was at Regina Pacis Girls College, you resumed late. I remember thinking ‘that has to be the skinniest kid I have ever seen’….fast forward to 2005, we fell into each other’s parts at the University of Abuja and hit it off quickly.

My Susan, my Susu. She has to be one of the kindest persons I have ever met and known. She had a solution for everything, she was stubborn but stubborn for life and wouldn’t let it be taken away from her.

This is why i’m still shocked at this news. I miss u my friend. You’ve left a vacuum so large that I wonder if it’ll ever go away.

To your loved ones, family and friends, Ada, Kene, Ifeoma,Joy, Memunant, Obi, its is my prayer that we all find the heart to move on, we’ve lost a rare gem but God really does know best

So I thank you God for everything, for the gift of Susu and like Damita Haddon sings, ‘everything belongs to you, our hearts, minds, soul and lives’. Do give us reason to believe this more than any and to come to terms with the fact that Susu’s gone.

To my beautiful friend, like mum said, you struggled for too long to enjoy life but you are resting now…Rest peacefully..
We love and miss you dearly IMG01737-20111119-0001Susan ‎​